Leftos - Lessons for the Opposite Sex

Move on!

oohlookasquirrel — Sat, 04 Feb 2012 23:31:23 +0000

New Answer - You're young. There are other people out there. You've wasted enough time on this guy. You want a partner who will be exclusive, and he's clearly not interested, or he would have made up his mind by now. I personally don't think there's anything wrong with staying in touch with your exes, or for straight girls to have straight male friends, or even being in love with two people at once, so long as everybody involved is informed and OK with the situation. But you're not OK with this, and he has proven that he is not going to change, so move on. Too soon? He's been making you feel bad for over a year. That's plenty of time to give him to "figure things out." You may be in love with him, but keep remind yourself of what a jerk he has been whenever you have second thoughts about saying goodbye. It sounds like he's been keeping you around as a "backup girlfriend" because his ex isn't interested. or maybe he just likes having someone around who clearly likes him so much, even if he doesn't feel the same way. He knows that you want him to be exclusive with you, but he's not going to do that or he would have by now. He may say that he loves you, but he's being a complete jerk by messing with your emotions and stringing you on like this. There are guys out there who won't treat you this way. Go out and meet some of them and ditch this jerk.

Am i moving too fast or was he simply too slow?

Kerasys421 — Fri, 03 Feb 2012 08:39:24 +0000

New Question - i've only had one boyfriennd my entire life. Him and i were together for four years since our freshmen year in high school. We always had ups and downs but mostly downs since either him or i were always confused. Before me he had a girlfriend he was with for two years which he claims to be his first love. I always knew at first i was the rebound girl however in time we both fell in love. He cares about me and he is always there for me but a year ago he broke up with me saying he had been talking to his ex and was strating to get feelings for her again. I was devastated and stopped talking to him but he continued to text me saying he was in love with me. I began talking to him again but he did not want to get into the relationship again claiming he was confused and that i had done things that made him slowly seperate from me. I decided to wait for him and for this past year my heart has been completely torn by me trying to prove to him that i love him. In a way what hurt me the most was him acting like he was my boyfriend around me but when he was gone i was like a stranger. Two weeks ago (exactly a year after he broke up with me) for the millionth time i asked him i wanted to make things official however he managed to tell me he was so in love with me and with his ex girlfriend (since she was his first love and you can never forget your first love) he needed more time. He also told me he had been talking to her and occasionally seeing her when i always respected him enough to not even talk to or go out with any other guy friend. So i told him that i could not be with someone that thinks he loves two poeple becuase frankly that seems ridiculous to me. I stopped talking to him completely but he wont stop texting me twice a day saying "Goodmorning" and "Goodnight." I have been talking to this guy who wants to meet me bu i still feel really hurt and like i might be moving too fast. I still deep down feel as if he will choose me and come back to me but i also feel like i can't get my hopes up for something that might not even happen. Emotionally hurting me even more. I am heartbroken, my self-esteem is super low and i can't even cry anymore. I don't know what to do or think which is why i need help or advice. My life is just starting but i feel as if im never gonna get to fully live again, if that even makes sense. I love this idiot sooo much it hurts. What should i do? Should i just move on to the next guy or wait a little more?

This law is misguided attempt to prevent...

rheasoo — Mon, 30 Jan 2012 06:26:12 +0000

New Answer - This law is misguided attempt to prevent underage girls in porn. It doesn’t work of course as you can’t accurately tell a womans age by their bodies. However it is ridiculous to think the government was trying to discriminate against small breasted women, this was a quick fix to a complex issue. The government should be taking action against and raising awareness then predatory tactics of sex/porn industry they basically slapped a sticker on the issue. You should be outraged at the ineffiecancy of the policy instead of worrying about the apparant small breast discrimination you’d be more efficient then.

She wants more too

Thinkr148 — Mon, 23 Jan 2012 20:33:59 +0000

New Answer - Sounds like she's still interested in you too. I'm with @OohLookasquirrel in that you need to ask her out. From your description it sounds like she's finally moved past her ex and maybe wants to give it a shot. I don't think you've got much to lose. Just go for it!

ask her out already!

oohlookasquirrel — Mon, 16 Jan 2012 15:04:51 +0000

New Answer - The fact that she's communicating with you right now seems to be saying that she wants to be part of your life. She may be hoping that you'll ask her out. Some girls always expect the guy to make all the moves, and by dangling herself in front of you again, she could be hoping that you'll bite. Or, maybe she just wants to be friends again. Hard to tell what's going on in someone else's brain. If you don't want to be just friends, then you should go ahead and ask her out. If that's what she wanted, everybody's happy. If she says no, then you should be open and tell her that you'd love to date her but you don't think the two of you can be "just friends." Put the ball in her court by telling her that if she changes her mind, she should let you know, provided that you haven't found someone else by that point. If she keeps texting you, you might have to ask her to stop, unless she wants a relationship.

I'm confused! I need your wise advice.

chia99 — Mon, 16 Jan 2012 05:32:26 +0000

New Question - Hey guys, I'm need of some advice, this girl that I was kind of seeing a year ago recently messaged me the other day saying that something she saw reminded her of me. We were never officially boyfriend/girlfriend but we were pretty serious and had strong feelings for each other until she told me that she still hadn't gotten over her ex. So I decided it was best for me to step back. We stopped talking altogether a little while after until she recently sent me a message. I still have really strong feelings for her and think about her a lot, even before she had messaged me. I have no desire to be just friends with her, I either want to be in a real relationship with her or nothing at all. Our recent texts have been light and mostly joking with each other, nothing serious has been discussed. Why would she message me? Was it as simple as just saying hi or is there something else to this than meets the eye?

i get pre ejaculation

maxisehrawat — Mon, 16 Jan 2012 00:17:25 +0000

New Question - within 2 minutes i think its just because i masterbates too much

Relationship Older Woman

kimberly1 — Fri, 13 Jan 2012 07:30:15 +0000

New Answer - The men involved in dating older ladies, as they are more experienced and more capable of dealing with the relationship run smoothly. Older women are more mature, financial integrity and good lovers. Be yourself. It is a local sex relationship you because she loves you; you provide, its spontaneity, and fun. So, do not even think of yourself as someone you're not. Take it somewhere it is by no means been before; show her that you're different from other men your age. Invite a jazz membership, live performance or a unique restaurant. You can change the theme of the discussion. Ask about her job, hobbies, what sort of music it seems the women tonight is smart, confident and mature, not to focus on the age. Try to be sure, too. Can be spontaneous. Give her something that adult date people her age can't both excitement and into bed. It is usually not looking for a serious relationship-it just wants to have fun. However, it is true that older girls, you can do so much for the young person is of the same sex. Do not check it with your ex. This might not make it feel above you. Older women can really feel comfortable to be with you, even if you're young, and find sex it probably will be at ease with your presence. Make her feel vital and show her that you are serious about it. You must have the same intensity of life as it is. You should know that the older woman never will wake you at night, to ask what you think, and this may not bother you. Do not pass too quickly. You understand that it will not strive to make quick, everyday, because she already had one and that one could not. Perhaps it already has children, and this can complicate things. At all times you need to take issues that include the ratio of older women. adult dating sites / women seeking / men dating / find women online

Probably not flirting.

oohlookasquirrel — Wed, 11 Jan 2012 23:59:29 +0000

New Answer - OK, I'm a little unsure what you're describing, but it sounds like a girl was trying to scare another guy off by pretending that she was dating you, even though she's not. I wouldn't necessarily say she's flirting with you. She's probably just really sick of this other guy and hoping that she will seem more unavailable if she produces a boyfriend instead of just telling the guy no. Her actions say that she sees you as a friend, at the very least, who can be trusted to help her with something, but she may only see you as a friend, or a guy she sort of knew who happened to be in the right place at the right time. I, personally, would not use this trick myself, but when I have seen others use it, they generally grab the closest guy who can be trusted to play along with the lie, and not the guy who they secretly want to date. You never know, though! I don't know enough about the situation to say for sure. Maybe she really is flirting with you.

Don't let TV fool you.

oohlookasquirrel — Wed, 11 Jan 2012 23:53:20 +0000

New Answer - Looking at TV and movies for realistic representations of dating is a dangerous game. Most people's dating lives simply are not that exciting. People on TV are frequently overly dramatic, because it's fun to watch complicated situations unfold and the drama of the events that happen as a result. In reality, you will probably not get into such complicated situations. or maybe you will! Some people seem to attract drama to them, but most dates are not like what you see on TV. Also, people on TV always seem to talk about "rules of dating" like when to kiss or when you bring up uncomfortable topics, but everybody is different. You will never learn anything new if you are scared to mess up. Will you be happy if you go through life without ever dating, and you never meet anybody to settle down and grow old with? Do you want to have an active sex life with a partner? Then you should probably learn how to date. Fortunately, you're young, and everybody your age is also new at the dating game. So go for it, make your mistakes, learn from them, and get better at it. As for the heartbreak, that usually comes when you've become really attached to someone and then you can't have them for whatever reason. If you have a huge crush on someone, go ahead and ask them out. If they're not interested, then you wouldn't want to date someone who wasn't interested in you, right? So you'll get over it. And getting turned down by someone you don't know well yet isn't so bad. It's a part of dating, it happens to everyone, and it will hurt less the more you try it.

Too quick with the relationship talk.

oohlookasquirrel — Wed, 11 Jan 2012 23:43:18 +0000

New Answer - I can't know for sure what went wrong because I wasn't there, but I personally would have been scared off if a guy calls me for the first time, we chat for a bit, and then he tells me he wants a serious relationship. That's a little too straightforward. I mean, it seems like you hardly know the girl. Get to know her a bit before you talk about where you want the relationship to go. You should probably hang out with the girl solo for a bit, and go on a few dates, before you can talk about being in a relationship, even if you're speaking in general statements about yourself and not specifically saying that you want to date her. If she was saying that she doesn't know what she wants but she's in a bad relationship she's not sure about, she was not necessarily saying no. She was saying that she can't commit to being in a relationship with you that second. She was revealing relevant information because she feels like she needs to be straightforward and let you know that she's sort of seeing someone but might not be for long. She doesn't necessarily hate you, though. Just because she stops texting you one day doesn't mean you should stop sending them (unless this becomes a pattern). If you like the girl, ask her out to a movie or a meal or an event of some kind and get to know her a bit. If she keeps saying no to dates and ignoring your texts, then you can start looking for someone else. My advice for the future is not to use that line about looking for relationships rather than sex again. That's the sort of thing you learn from a guy by getting to know him, not because he tells you that. Instead, talk about your hobbies and interests to see if you have anything in common. If you really really hate these early, "getting to know you" conversations, consider going on a date in a place with lots of stuff going on (a festival, concert, really busy bar or restaurant, etc.) so you always have something to talk about, even if it is just people watching. It's easier to get to know someone if you spend time DOING something together instead of acting like you're on a job interview.

Ask for help

Gabriel F — Wed, 11 Jan 2012 04:09:08 +0000

New Question - Is a girl asking me to hel her keep a guy away to flirt? Have you ever used this in a guy for this purpose?

so where did i go wrong with the conversation?

kingman123 — Tue, 10 Jan 2012 16:43:45 +0000

New Question - so my friend told me a girl thinks im cute, and i got her number from him, so im not good with talking to girls, idk im not shy or anything, i just never say the right thing i guess, and i was trying to do what i know i should, you known get her to talk about herself, it wasn't easy, and than she asked me what she should known about me, and i said "im different from most guys, i don't look for just sex and a good time, i want an actual relationship, and if you want the same, maby we should spark something up" i think this is where things went bad, she thought i was trying to rush, and than a few seconds later, she told me that she had a bf back home ( we are in college) and the relationship was bad, so she's not sure what she wants. which is basically a girls way of saying eeehh yeah im not into you anymore, soo srry. ( they can never be straight forward) she hasn't texted me since i replied to her. So where did i go wrong, what do i need to do next time so i don't run the girl off or whatever.